Alright, the cat's out of the bag. The Movi Family is growing! We're adding another little chickie to the nest this December, and it got me thinking.... my third pregnancy looks a heck of a lot different than my first.
For one thing, I haven't checked my "What to Expect" app in a few weeks. I couldn't tell you what fruit my baby resembles or what features my baby is developing. I've been too busy running after my older two kids.
As I reflect back on what I wish I knew going into my first pregnancy, here's what I would tell myself:
- Babies never come at an ideal time. There is no perfect time to have a baby. It is unpredictable and never convenient. There will never be enough time or financial resources, and that's ok.
- Breastfeeding (if you choose to do it) is a hard yet rewarding journey. It will take time, patience, learning, awkwardness and both you and baby will need to learn how to do it! Invest the time into the learning and get support from a lactation consultant early.
- Motherhood is a combination of brand new skills and primal instinct. Learn to trust your gut but don't be afraid to ask for help from your village. Some days will feel awkward, like you have no idea what you're doing. And there will also be moments that take your breath away.
- While planning for birth is important, you will never have more time to read parenting books than while you're pregnant. Read about the toddler years, parenting philosophies, sleep strategies . . . you just won't have as much time after baby comes!
- Don't sweat the small stuff. You are doing a good job. You are already the mom that your baby needs.
- Your family will look different than everyone else's. Don't compare someone else's "hard" with your own.